A child born without love is a child without hope
When a child is born they have no choice in the matter.
They do not have the power to determine their progenitor. Flung helplessly into a harsh and often times dangerous world.
A child is a promise of all man’s greatest achievements, and a mirror to all the horror we are capable of inflicting.
From the moment they are conceived they are at the mercy of their environmental conditions.
From the health of the mother, her habits, her state of mind, to the physical environment in which she lives.
Every aspect of this tiny existence hangs perilously on the whim of the host organism; the mother.
Beyond the moment of birth an infant is bombarded by countless obstacles to which he is tasked to overcome.
Nurtured and protected, encouraged and reassured, the child can grow and thrive.
Emboldened by his parents love and care.
And, empowered to become the man he was always born to be.
But held captive from the light a child will shrivel and wilt like the forgotten flowers left at the foot of a headstone.
Cast aside and ignored a child inevitably fails to thrive, and his aspirations may never be secured.
Though the vast majority of parents give an abundance of care and nurturing to their children, a great many do not.
So many children suffer at the hand of the person that is charged with their care. The person the child looks up to for guidance in life.
But instead of showing this fragile being a way of life that is beautiful they show them a life of misery and darkness.
It is a sad reality that there are hundreds of thousands of children in emergency care, be it temporary, foster or adopted.
These children are often fractured beyond comprehension through abject neglect, violent and abusive life experiences that no person, let alone a child, should ever endure.
But just as tragic, are the many, many more that are falling through the cracks and still living in their dangerous and toxic environments.
It may take many of these children a lifetime to repair the damage inflicted upon them.
With love we build hope
But it will be an easier process if they are ensconced at an early age and placed in the care of loving, nurturing people.
If you have ever thought of fostering perhaps the book ‘Another place at the table’ by Kathy Harrison can give you a unique perspective as guidance. You can get the book by clicking the image below.
Love, understanding and patience are the ingredients needed for all children.
But for these children, it will help to glue their lives back together.
It is my hope that our social services and our legislation makers will widen their gaze, and look upon this tragic and growing social issue as a state of emergency.
I encourage them to develop more streamlined systems to ensure children are out of harm’s way, safe and embraced by loving carers.
Our system needs to have checks and balances in place for safety reasons; of course, that it obvious.
But it also needs to reduce the red tape and the bureaucracy. Enabling more potential foster or adoptive parents to play their vital part in the recovery processes of these children.
The lifelong burden these children carry seems to always fall on the shoulders of the victims and far too infrequently where it belongs.
The justice system seems always to favour the rights of the accused over the rights of the victim, in particular if the victim is a child.
For some insane reason a child’s life seems to carry less value to the judiciary than that of an adult.
And this is a travesty that needs to be changed.
Fostering enhances the lives of all who participate
I admire the people who open their hearts, houses and lives to the unwanted and discarded children of our society.
Not only are they changing the life of a child, they are adding value to their own lives, the lives of other children in their family, and the lives of people in the wider community.
The unsung heroes of this whole scene are the people who help the people who help. The quiet achievers behind the scenes, preparing first night bags, food parcels and general support.
If fostering is not for you, then maybe becoming a Foster Friend is the next best thing.
Shared compassion is contagious, and just as other pathogens spread through a community so too does the love that emanates from the hearts of foster/adoptive carers.
I hope that these people are given the legislative, financial and community support that they deserve in order to give the best of themselves to these beautiful children.
until next time